On Tuesday I saw my cardiologist (Dr.K) for my quarterly blood work results-which I was too busy to do the prior 9 months. One things I love about Dr.K is she always starts my visit with “What’s new?” or “Tell me how things are going?” You may say she is just being polite but having been to going to her for the last 3 1/2 -4 years I can assure you this is part of the treatment I receive. For the most part my appointments last 30-60+ minutes, usually 3/4 of time is talking about how my life is going and how I deal with it. We never even look at the blood work results until we discuss the factors that ultimately effect them. This time I started with a sigh and said “It doesn’t get much worse”…her response “Tell me what’s going on with you?”. Now, I do my best to be in the moment and happy as much as possible and while I have been feeling very low about life in general (money,work etc…) I’m never visually depressed, unhappy or fail to find laughter through the days but I gave her quite a dump of excuses, emotions and reasons why life “doesn’t get much worse”.
Dr. K is from New york and has a bit of that city’s flavor to her but she is also very sweet, caring and ultimately there for her patients. So, basically she called me out for any excuse I had for not working out, not eating correctly, not doing what I know I should be doing in regards to how I live my life and handle stress. Sort of like a coach at half time pumping up his team – calling out the errors and missed opportunities and motivating and reinforcing how not to make those mistakes and get my head back in the game, “You already have the answers and know what to do you just need to do it.” is what she said. At first I didn’t like hearing it - I know what I need to do I don’t need someone else telling me- 10-15 minutes into the discussion I realized I need this. I’m not a huge Star Wars fan but her statement to me of “There is no try, just do” (reference to Yoda’s “Do or do not, there is no try”) was spot on.
I wish more doctors especially cardiologist treated the whole person more…because somedays you just need to have someone call you out!
What kind of treatment to you get? What does your doc do or don’t do you’d like to see more or less of? Do you prefer just the facts or also want a coach at your visits?